We are told that 1 in 4 people will develop a mental health issue over their lifetime. That is a lot of us! Celebrities are coming out of the woodwork to share their own stories of struggles with anxiety and depression, and well-being is on the agenda in workplaces, schools, colleges as well as the media.
So if most of us will struggle with our mental health at some point or another, why do we find it so hard to talk about? Why can’t we be open with others about how we are low, down, going to our therapist, taking anti-depressants? Physical health is firmly on the agenda: we complain of headaches, stomach cramps, aches and pains; we openly tell people we have a doctor’s appointment, we are on anti-biotics etc
What’s the difference: Physical health, mental health? Is it that sharing our feelings of vulnerability is intolerable? Do we assume that others will judge us unfavourably for admitting openly what most of us might keep hidden? Do we still see vulnerability as a weakness, rather than just another inevitable trait of being human? In fact mental health and physical health are closely interlinked. When we are physically low, we often don’t feel positive and energised about life. When our mental health is challenged, our physical health is also affected for example through sleep problems, eating problems, drug and alcohol use.
I would like to think that counselling and psychotherapy not only provide a safe place for people to break the loneliness and silence of mental health concerns, but also that the profession can affect the wider culture. Once people feel they have had the chance to share their experiences of anxiety and depression in a therapeutic context, and realise they have not been judged, they may be able to speak about the mental health more openly, encouraging others to do the same. We may finally break the taboo.