I recently participated in a weekend seminar with the big title of ‘The Body, Psychotherapy, the World’, put on by Processwork UK. I had some big experiences (perhaps for a later blog) but was also reminded of the basics of the work that I do. Two central ingredients: warmth and curiosity. If I do nothing else but this around clients, I believe, I will be setting the groundwork for change to happen.
I don’t remember ‘warmth’ or ‘curiosity’ being discussed with any emphasis during my training as a therapist. Somehow they seem to belong more comfortably in a social context, and don’t quite sound technical enough, medical enough, or professional enough to be constituents of profound and life-altering psychotherapeutic intervention.
And so I am taken back to basics, of how I can be around others, what makes it safe and purposeful for them to dwell inside themselves and somehow share with me what that is like. Once they do that, I can enter the slipstream of their experience and then we are in business.
Warmth and curiosity go a long way because they create a framework for a client to tell, to show, to be seen; for parts of themselves to be revealed that they may have deemed unacceptable, unwanted, disowned or broken to come into the room for re-evaluation. The client can also become warm and curious about themselves, or self-reflective, thereby being able to access inner resources in challenging situations.