People are often scared by what they are feeling and experiencing, for example, it might be a well of sadness, massive anger or crippling fear. Or it might be feeling numb, lost, disorientated. It may not feel ‘safe’ to let these experiences in or they might be viewed as not helpful, not productive or plain weird, and so they are screened out or pushed aside.
Therapy offers a place to tolerate these uncomfortable experiences, and to become more enquiring about them, without the need to ‘fix’ or name them as something ‘wrong’. This involves entering a space where we don’t know or necessarily understand what is going on; it is in developing a curiosity into these otherwise unwelcome processes that other things emerge.
Sometimes, the exploration of a body symptom or following an image is a useful way of by-passing the mind’s tendency to shut out experience that might be perceived as threatening. In the way I work, it is less about trying to work out ‘where did this come from’ and more about learning to tolerate the feelings/sensations that arise and describe them. In doing this, it is possible to develop a different relationship with what is disturbing, to become more emotionally resourced and to discover unknown aspects of yourself.